In other words, kids need to know they matter. You can foster those traits by helping kids feel like they're valued for who they are - rather than their grades, or the awards they win - and their communities count on them, Wallace told Make It last month. Healthy strivers are self-motivated to succeed, and don't believe that their accomplishments define their worth as humans.
Nan's strategies align with research from toxic-parenting expert Jennifer Breheny Wallace, who says the children most likely to succeed as adults are raised to be 'healthy strivers.'
